The Secrets of Self-Confidence Revealed
Have you ever looked at someone and thought to yourself, “Wow, they’re confident and in control. I wonder what their secret is.”
There are many “secrets” to building your confidence, and you can implement all of them today. Self-esteem is particularly important during addiction recovery because there is a clear correlation between low self-esteem and drug or alcohol abuse.
Think of it this way: low self-esteem is a discrepancy between one’s ideal self-concept and actual self-concept, and addiction is an attempt to self-medicate or remediate these deficits. In other words, by improving your self-confidence, you minimize the temptations to turn to drugs and alcohol.
USE WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
Find positive mantras to repeat to yourself everyday. Remember, what you repeatedly tell yourself because engrained in your thinking. Positive mantras might include:
- Today, I am strong. I can do this.
- I love and approve of myself.
- I draw from my inner strength and light.
- I forgive myself for all the mistakes I have made.
- I am safe and sound. All is well.
Even if you have to “Fake it til you make it,” repeating positive mantras will eventually become second nature. You’ll let go of limiting beliefs that hold you back and grow into a healthier, stronger person.
MODEL OTHER CONFIDENT PEOPLE
You’re never too old to have a role model. Find people that you admire and observe how they think, act, and respond to the world around them. This gives you a new perspective on life while allowing you to eventually take on their confidence.
GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO MAKE MISTAKES
“A person, who never made a mistake, never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein
Don’t try to create a perfect world. All to often during addiction recovery, it’s tempting to take on an all-or-nothing approach. Instead, don’t fear taking baby steps. Don’t fear mistakes, but rather view them as an opportunity to learn and grow. Dwelling on mistakes lowers your self-confidence while learning from them keeps your head held high.
LEARN TO TRUST
“Confidence” comes from the Latin fidere – “to trust.” Have trust in yourself. Believe that you will find success in recovery and beyond. Furthermore, learn to trust people in your support community, those who will be there when you need them most. When it’s difficult to trust, learn to let courage take over.
Negative thoughts are counter-productive. It’s important to find the silver lining in every situation and to see the best in those around you. Negativity makes you feel worthless while positivity makes you feel valued. However, be aware that the more self-confident you become, the easier it will be for negative people to attack you, especially those unhappy by seeing your success. It’s critical to filter these people out of your life and hold them at a distance. Only let people who are cheering you on into your inner circle.
At Voyage, of the JourneyPure family of centers, we understand the importance of building self-confidence during addiction recovery. This is why we implement a range of therapies, techniques and tools to help women better their image of self-worth.
Contact us today to learn more.